Text us

Have a question about how to date in a healthy way? Need to check-in with an advocate about your relationship? Want to raise a red flag?

Our advocates are happy to help and can be reached via text messaging.

Simply text “loveis” (capitalization does not matter) to 77054. Normal texting fees apply. You will receive a response from a peer advocate prompting you for your question. Go ahead and text your comment or question and we will reply.

Have a smart phone? We can send interactive links and resources for you to access directly from your phone.

Is your problem bigger than 160 characters? Turn your text into a talk by asking an advocate for our phone number or using our chat service. If your situation is serious, we recommend calling or chatting first.

The text service, just like our phone line and chat, is confidential. As always, we at the National Dating Abuse Helpline are concerned for your safety. Please make sure you are in a safe space before you text. Always delete the conversation after you finish to ensure that no one else can access your information.

Chat Us

The live chat (IM-style) on loveisrespect.org is one way to contact a peer advocate. You get the same one-on-one, real-time, confidential information from a trained peer advocate as you do if you contact the National Dating Abuse Helpline by text and phone.

Remember, the chat is:

  • A confidential, one-on-one chat session with a peer advocate.
  • NOT a public chat room.
  • An internal messaging system used specifically for young adults who need to contact a peer advocate — it is NOT a general chat messenger such as MSN Messenger, AIM, Yahoo Live Chat, Gchat or iChat.
  • Available by clicking on the icon found throughout the loveisrespect.org — you do NOT have to download anything to use it.

We receive a variety of questions from teens and 20-somethings all over the country. Feel free to chat about anything you would like relating to relationships. You could ask for advice for yourself or for a friend in need. For example, we’re often asked:

  • “So, what should I do?”
  • “Is this abuse?”
  • “Will he ever change?”
  • “How can I get her to stop?”

Nothing is off limits, too crazy or embarrassing. We are here to help. Chat with one of our peer advocates now.

Call Us

Our peer advocates have served thousands of teens and young adults through our 24/7 phone service. Calling 1-866-331-9474 will connect you with an advocate trained to offer education, support and advocacy to those involved in dating abuse relationships as well as concerned friends, siblings, parents, teachers, law enforcement members and service providers.

Peer advocates can connect you to resources in your area, provide you with helpful websites, help you create a plan to stay safe or just listen. All conversations with peer advocates are confidential and anonymous. You will never be asked for your name or other contact information, but an advocate may ask for your age and city to find local resources for you.

When you call, be prepared for the advocate to first ask if you are in a safe place to talk. Once you are, the advocate will encourage you to explain your situation.

During the call, your peer advocate will work with you to come up with solutions that best meet your needs. Whether you are just leaving an abusive relationship or not sure if your relationship is unhealthy, advocates have received extensive training to help you come up with the answer that best fits your life. If they suggest something that you don’t think will work for you, don’t be afraid to let them know.

After you and your advocate come up with ideas for your situation, the advocate will review them with you and can dial you through to a local resource you are requesting.